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Sunday, April 17, 2011

There's a conversation Caleb and I had that I replay over and over in my head. We'd had one of our numerous "should we/shouldn't we have another kid" discussions and almost in passing he said, "It's not like there's some kid that's just waiting on us to be born."

In that moment, right or wrong, I absolutely believed that there was.

Not long afterwards, just out of the shower, I remember pausing in my closet and urgently needing to have a conversation with said baby.

Things are good, I told him. (I said him because I felt like I was addressing the son I wondered if I was fated to parent.)

I like my life. I like this threesome. Things are good. Why invite change?

So if you are going to show up, I told him, it needs to be soon. Really soon before I lose my courage and close this door forever.

I got pregnant that night.

And 10 months later, he's finally here and so, so worth it.

Declan Grey Sweazy, meet the world.

Nana's grandson

photo by Nana


  1. He's so beautiful! Congratulations!!!

    I felt the same way about our threesome, except that my parents were both lonely only children (though I don't think all onlies are lonely) and so it was a given we would have more.

    I love that transition of loving the one so intensely to loving two with just as much feeling in the reservoir for both ... it is a feeling one can only have and not describe perfectly to others.

    Congratulations to all of you!

  2. Félicitations! I have been checking my Reader for days hoping for this post. He really is beautiful.
    Can you please describe how to pronounce Declan's name correctly? Is it /dee-klahn/ or /dik-lahn/ or /deh-klan/ or something else still?
    Profitez de ces jours avec votre nouveau cadeau, tout beau.

  3. Huge Congratulations and well done! Enjoy it - all! Lovely pic too

  4. Thank you thank you! And vls - it's pronounced DECK-lan, though I'm given to calling my little string bean Slim :)

  5. I love him so much. I must hold him!

    Also, he and Jiro can bond over no one knowing how to pronounce their names. (I already straightened Warren out, who was going with dee-klahn.

  6. Congratulations!
    And Willkommen little Declan!!
    May your life be full of wonders!

  7. Congratulations, Melissa! He is lovely!

  8. welcome, declan! you lucky little baby! congratulations to you all! he is nothing short of perfect. enjoy. xx